Our staff at Kids of the Crown just finished a training segment on Transitions. There were many points that hit home with us and we felt should be shared with parents as well. We liked the phrase ESTABLISHING TRANSITIONS, ELIMINATES CHAOS!
As adults we know that transitions are a part of life. They happen every day and are often times unexpected. Children experience many transitions during their early years particularly if they are in Preschool or Daycare. They transition from home to the car to the school. They transition from their parents or grandparents to their teachers. They transition from their siblings to their friends. They transition from one set of expectations at home to a different one at school.
There is nothing wrong with transitions...as we said, they are a way of life. Some transitions are significant and others are much less important. They can be fun, challenging, scary, distracting or upsetting to children. Part of our job as Early Childhood teachers and your job as a parent is to teach children transitioning skills preparing them for successful passage in the many life changing experiences ahead of them.
The first transition that we will look at is when a child is new to a school (or any other situation). Preparation is key to helping the child move smoothly into any new situation. They should be given an opportunity to visit the school and meet the teachers and children that they will be with. The upcoming change should be talked about at home and they should be given the opportunity to ask questions. Sometimes more than one visit is necessary when a child struggles with change.
Another transition occurs when a child moves from one classroom to another. Even when they are excited about the change they need time to adjust and to adapt to the new teachers and children that they are with. At KOC we try to give them the opportunity to visit the new classroom before they actually move up.
One more transition that occurs at school has to do with the teachers...moving from the morning to the afternoon teacher, a teacher leaving or a new teacher starting. Sometimes we have control over the changes that occur and other times we don't have control. Sometimes we can prepare the children for the change and other times we have to deal with the fall out that unexpected changes create. These are all based on relationships and throughout life children will be exposed to changes in relationships...with friends, with family, with boyfriends or girlfriends, with spouses, with their own children. How they are taught to handle the relationship changes at an early age with help determine their ability to handle change as they get older.
Learning about transitions and how to transition is not just about the early childhood classroom. When children experience the unkindness of friends they learn that people can get mad at one another and that people can be mean to one another...that there is appropriate and inappropriate behavior. We must teach children that we all make mistakes, large and small. That there will be things that happen that we don't like, but that is really okay. They need to learn the skills to figure out what went wrong and what they can do about it. When they learn to overcome adversity and accomplish the ability to move on from it, they grow in their abilities to transition through the world.
There are some issues that go along with transitions...Children are often expected to transition without help or preparation...Teachers see family involvement as a bother and ignore the input of the parent...Parents don't want to participate - they just expect the teacher to take care of it. Overcoming these issues is the job of the Parent/Teacher TEAM! Working together will only benefit the children.
These issues can be overcome when teachers value the parent as the "expert" on their child and when parents see the teachers as educators that are continually learning about children in general. There has to be a trust that is built by seeking feedback and exploring concerns and questions. We also have to remember that every child is different and they need time to adjust to the changes occurring around them. They also need to have opportunities to talk with both parents and teachers about their questions and concerns.
It is important to establish routines that children can trust such as how you say good-bye in the morning and greet each other at night. Parent set the expectations for their child...remember that if you are apprehensive or uncertain your child will be too!
Here are some ideas that might help your child handle transitions just a little better:
1. Do your best to get your child to school on time for class each day. Preschool begins at 8:30 a.m.
2. Have a breakfast routine at home or plan for your child to eat breakfast at school...a healthy start to each day is key to their performance and yours.
3. Only give your child choices that are real. Instead of asking your child "Would your like to put your coat on?" say "You may put your coat on now." It eliminates the possibility for them to say NO! This applies to anything that you need for your child to do. All children need the ability to have some control so give them choices on the things that don't matter as much. Pick two outfits and ask which one they would like to wear or give them two choices for breakfast and let them decide. I encourage you though to not get in the habit of preparing two meals on a regular basis...they need to learn to eat what is prepared for them without complaint. Your kitchen is not a restaurant.
4. We need to listen to children and find out what they have to say. We also need to teach them the words to use in situations of conflict so that they are brave enough to speak up for themselves.
5. Children are involved in so many activities...sometimes they just need to be kids and move at their own pace and play to their hearts content.
5. Children need routines (a schedule if you will). When routines are established they know what to expect and will be much more successful in accomplishing the tasks set before them. Getting up and going to bed at set times are the best place to start in establishing routines. Children should not be in charge of this...you are the parent and should set those routines for your child,
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