Love is Not an Option

First you were a couple...then you were parents.  How that changes things!  As a couple, it was all about the two of you (and maybe your pets).  You did things together, you sent messages to each other, you gave gifts to each other, you had time for each other.  Then, that new baby came into your life and everything changed.  At first it was great...you shared everything about your new baby and you quickly became a threesome or foursome or fivesome. 
Eventually, though the newness wears off and life returns to normal.  You are now balancing your career with not only your relationship with your spouse, but also with your role as a parent.  There doesn't seem to be enough time in the day for everyone and everything.  Very quickly husbands (and wives) begin  to feel neglected and stressed and overworked.  It is hard to find time to care for and love each other!
It is generally good practice for husbands and wives to schedule regular (at least once a month) dates with each other and spend time with each other.  Find a sitter, take turns planning a night out (or in) to devote just to each other.  You and your spouse will benefit from that one small thing and even more that that your child(ren) will benefit too!
It has been said that the best thing that a father can do for his children is love their mother and the best thing that a mother can do is love their father.  Your children learn about commitment, sacrifice, love, marriage, relationships and so many other things when they see their parents "loving and caring" for one another.  It provides them with a sense of security!
In many marriages, the priorities are all messed up...it should be God first, spouse second, children third and job fourth.  it is not easy to follow these priorities, but the alternative leads to unhappy homes and divorced families.  In the long run, it is the children that suffer the most.
If you need some resources to get your marriage back on track, check out the "Love Dare Book" from Fireproof and "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.
Remember...you were a couple before your children arrived and you will be a couple again when they leave the nest.  Hang on to each other and keep loving!